Something I’ve struggled with since having Peter is the dreaded working mom guilt. I see other mama’s post about it ALL the time. I feel it on the daily. Especially when I return to work after a break, which I just recently did. Today I’m sharing my tips for beating the working mom guilt.
Don’t play the comparison game
This one is the hardest for me. I scroll through my Instagram feed and see these awesome stay at home moms wearing cute clothes and spending the day with their littles. I have to remind myself constantly that I am only seeing the pieces of their lives that they post. It’s far to easy to think that they have it better than me, although I’m sure they have their fair share of tough days too.
Limit screen time when you are home
One of my goals for the new year is to limit how much time I have my phone out in the evenings. I felt the need to maximize time with my family and my phone is a huge distraction. Plus, Peter sees me on it and wants it too. So far, we have done well with limiting his screen time. He has no interest in the TV or iPad. We would like to continue on the path we’re on and not introduce phone games until later. I don’t feel so much mom guilt when I spend my evenings playing on the floor with Peter!
Find childcare you’re comfortable with
We did a ton of research when it came to finding the right daycare provider for Peter. It all paid off and we have been so happy with the daycare he attends. I don’t worry if he’s well cared for during the day. Peter’s daycare was also very affordable for our family. A lot of stress and first time mom worries were handled quickly with the daycare option we picked.
Be intentional about family time
My husband and I are total homebodies. We love spending our weekends just hanging out around the house. Every few months though it feels like we are busy nonstop. Visiting family, attending work events, or just taking a mommy day. During those short seasons that mom guilt eats away at me. All I desire is to sit on the living room floor and watch Peter play. I have to remind myself that it’s okay to say no to going out, and be intentional about choosing to put family first.
Connect with other working moms
I don’t know what I would do without my mommy friends. We laugh, we cry, and we GET each other. It’s so important to me to have friends I can call when motherhood gets hard. We also share in our triumphs together. Find a couple of moms with similar aged kids to your own. I love planning mommy and kids dates outside of work!
What tips do you have for beating working mom guilt? PSA: Working moms are not the only ones who deal with mommy guilt! It can come from literally anywhere, no matter the season you’re in!
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